# Jab Rishta Mushkil Ho Jaye
Har rishte mein kabhi na kabhi mushkil din aate hain. Do alag insan jab saath rehte hain to kabhi baat bigad bhi jati hai, aur is mein ghabrane ki koi baat nahi. Qur'an ne aise waqt ke liye bhi rehnumai di hai, aur iski shuruaat sabr se hoti hai. Mard se kaha gaya: "Agar woh tumhein napasand hon, to ho sakta hai ke tum ek cheez ko napasand karo aur Allah us mein bahut si bhalai rakh de."[1](https://quran.com/4/19) Jis baat se aaj dil dukha hai, ho sakta hai usi rishte mein Allah ne kal ke liye bahut si khushi rakhi ho. Isliye mushkil waqt mein pehla kadam jaldi ka nahi, thehar kar sochne ka hai.
## Aapas mein Sulah
Thehar kar sochne ke baad baat cheet ka raasta hai. Qur'an aurat ki taraf se is baat ko yun bayan karta hai: "Aur agar kisi aurat ko apne pati se bad-suluki ya berukhi ka dar ho, to dono par koi gunah nahi ke aapas mein sulah kar len, aur sulah behtar hai."[2](https://quran.com/4/128) Yani patni bhi apni pareshani keh sakti hai, aur dono mil kar koi raasta nikal sakte hain. Isi ayat mein aage kaha gaya: "Aur agar tum achha bartaav karo aur Allah se daro, to Allah tumhare kaamon se khoob waqif hai."[2](https://quran.com/4/128) Sulah mein kabhi kisi ko thoda jhukna bhi padta hai, aur jo Allah ke liye jhukta hai, uski yeh koshish Allah ke saamne hai.
Kabhi aisa bhi hota hai ke do log akele baat nahi suljha paate. Is ke liye Qur'an ne ek bahut samajhdari ka tareeqa bataya hai: "Aur agar tumhein dono ke beech jhagde ka dar ho, to ek faisla karne wala mard ke ghar walon mein se aur ek aurat ke ghar walon mein se bhejo. Agar yeh dono sulah chahenge to Allah un dono ke beech milap paida kar dega."[3](https://quran.com/4/35) Dono taraf se ek ek samajhdar insan ho, jo dono ki baat sune aur jiska maqsad sulah ho. Aur Allah ka wada hai ke jab niyat sulah ki ho, to woh madad karta hai.
## Agar Saath Rehna Mumkin na Rahe
Poori koshish ke baad bhi kabhi saath rehna mumkin nahi rehta. Islam ne aise waqt ke liye bhi izzat ka raasta rakha hai. Qur'an kehta hai: "To ya to bhale tareeqe se rakho, ya achhe tareeqe se chhod do."[4](https://quran.com/2/229) Aur yeh bhi kaha: "Aur unhein nuksan pahunchane ke liye na roko, taake un par zulm karo. Jo aisa karega, usne apne upar hi zulm kiya."[5](https://quran.com/2/231) Aurat ko bhi yeh haq diya gaya hai ke sahih wajah ho to woh alag hone ki darkhwast kare. Hazrat Sabit bin Qais ki patni Nabi ﷺ ke paas aayin aur kaha: "Ae Allah ke Rasool, main Sabit ke akhlaq ya deen mein koi aib nahi nikalti, lekin main Musalman hote hue yeh pasand nahi karti ke unke saath reh kar Islam ke khilaf bartaav kar baithun." Aap ne poocha: "Kya tum unka bagh wapas kar dogi?" Unhon ne kaha: "Ji haan." To aap ne Hazrat Sabit se farmaya: "Apna bagh le lo aur inhein ek talaq de do."[6](https://sunnah.com/bukhari:5273) Dekhiye, us khatoon ne na unki burai ki, na koi tamasha hua. Nabi ﷺ ne uski baat suni aur masla izzat ke saath hal kar diya.
Aise maamlon ke apne masail hain, isliye faisla ghusse mein nahi, balke kisi bharosemand aalim se pooch kar kiya jaye. Aur agar kisi ko maar peet ya kisi nuksan ka samna ho, to woh der na kare aur apne ghar ke bade logon ya madad karne walon se fauran baat kare. Aur jis waqt rishte alag bhi ho rahe hon, us waqt bhi Qur'an yeh kehta hai: "Aur aapas ki bhalai ko na bhoolo."[7](https://quran.com/2/237)
Mushkil chahe jitni badi lage, Allah ka yeh wada yaad rahe: "Aur jo Allah se darta hai, Allah uske liye raasta nikal deta hai."[8](https://quran.com/65/2) Allah Ta'ala har ghar ki mushkil aasan kare, aur miyan biwi ko ek doosre ke liye sukoon aur rahmat ka zariya banaye. Aameen.
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**References:** 1 [Qur'an 4:19](https://quran.com/4/19), 2 [Qur'an 4:128](https://quran.com/4/128), 3 [Qur'an 4:35](https://quran.com/4/35), 4 [Qur'an 2:229](https://quran.com/2/229), 5 [Qur'an 2:231](https://quran.com/2/231), 6 [Sahih al-Bukhari 5273](https://sunnah.com/bukhari:5273), 7 [Qur'an 2:237](https://quran.com/2/237), 8 [Qur'an 65:2](https://quran.com/65/2).