Dangers in the Home

Book by Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

Introduction

Bismillah-ir-Rahman-ir-Raheem
Allah ke naam se shuru, jo nihayat meharban aur raheem hai.

Hamd o Sana Allah ke liye hai. Hum usi ki tareef karte hain aur usi se madad aur maafi talab karte hain. Hum Allah ki panah maangte hain apne nafs ke shar aur apne aamal ke buray asraat se. Jise Allah hidayat de, usay koi gumrah nahi kar sakta, aur jise Allah gumrah kar de, usay koi hidayat nahi de sakta. Main gawahi deta hoon ke Allah ke siwa koi maabood nahi, woh akela hai, uska koi shareek nahi. Aur main gawahi deta hoon ke Muhammad ﷺ Allah ke bande aur Rasool hain.

Ghar ko durust karna aur usay behtareen tareeqe se chalana har Musalman mard aur aurat ke liye ek azeem zimmedari aur amaanat hai. Allah Ta’ala ne humein is zimmedari ko uske ahkaam ke mutabiq anjam dene ka hukum diya hai. Har ghar ko Allah ki hidayat ke roshni mein chalana zaroori hai, aur is ka ek tareeqa yeh hai ke ghar ko burai aur shar se pak kiya jaye.

Is maqaalay ka maqsad kuch un buraiyon aur haraam cheezon ko samajh lana hai jo kai gharo mein hoti hain aur jo Musalman ummat ke aglay naslon ke liye tabahi ka sabab ban sakti hain. Yeh ek naseehat hai har sachai ka talib insaan ke liye jo apne ghar ko behtareen banane ke liye tareeqay talash kar raha hai, taki woh Allah ke Rasool ﷺ ke is hukm par amal kar sakein:
“Tum mein se jo koi burai dekhe, to usay apne haath se badal de [yani amal ke zariye], agar na kar sake to apni zubaan se [yani naseehat ke zariye], aur agar yeh bhi mumkin na ho to apne dil se [yani us burai ko ghalat samajhte hue]. Aur yeh imaan ka sabse kamzor darja hai.”
(Saheeh Muslim, 1/69)

Yeh guftagu kuch un mamnoo aur buraiyon par roshni dalti hai jo meri kitab “The Muslim Home - 40 Recommendations” mein mukhtasir taur par bayaan ki gayi hain.

Main Allah se dua karta hoon, jo Nihayat Karam Wala hai, Arsh-e-Azeem ka Malik hai, ke woh mere Musalman bhaiyon aur behnon ko is maqaalay aur meri pichli kitaab ke zariye faida pohnchaye. Beshak Allah hi hidayat dene wala hai aur sirat-e-mustaqeem ki taraf le jane wala hai.

Ghair-Mahram Se Bachne Ka Islami Usool

Musalman gharon ko is baat ka khayal rakhna chahiye ke jab shohar ghar mein mojood na ho, to biwi par ghair-mahram rishtedaron ke daakhil hone ki hargiz ijaazat na di jaye. Kuch ghar aise hote hain jahan shohar ke kuch rishtedar, jo biwi ke liye ghair-mahram hote hain, kisi samaji majboori ke sabab ghar mein rehte hain. Jaise ke shohar ke bhai jo taleem haasil kar rahe hote hain ya ab tak shadi shuda nahi hote. Yeh log ghar mein ghair-maamooli taur par bina kisi rukawat ke daakhil hote hain, kyunke mohalla ya rishtedaron ke nazar mein yeh ghar ke sardaar ke qareebi rishtedar hote hain.

Yeh ghaflat aur laaparwahi aise fitno ko janam de sakti hai jo Allah Ta’ala ke gazab ka sabab ban sakti hain agar inhein Allah ke lagaye hue hudood ke zariye roka na jaye.

Is maamle mein Nabi Kareem (ﷺ) ka ek zaruri usool yeh hai jo aap ne farmaya: "Aurton ke paas na jao." Ek Ansari sahabi ne poocha: "Allah ke Rasool, dewar ke baare mein kya hukm hai?" Aap ﷺ ne jawab diya: "Dewar to maut hai!" (Bukhari, Fath al-Baari, 9/330).

Imam Nawawi (رحمه الله) ne is hadees ka bayan karte hue kaha ke yahaan shohar ke walid aur betay ke siwa dusre rishtedaron ka zikr hai, kyunke yeh mahram hain aur biwi ke saath akelay reh sakte hain. Magar shohar ke bhai, bhanje, chacha aur cousin ghair-mahram hain aur agar biwi shadi shuda na hoti, to in ke saath nikah mumkin hota.

"Dewar to maut hai" ka matlab yeh hai:

  1. Dewar ke saath akelay hone ki surat mein gunaah hone ka khatra hai jo roohani tabahi ka sabab banega.
  2. Agar zina (haraam talaqat) ho jaye, to shari’ saza, yaani sangsaar karna, maut ka sabab ban sakta hai.
  3. Shohar apni biwi par ghairat ke sabab talaaq de sakta hai, jo us aurat ki tabahi ban sakta hai.
  4. Dewar ke saath akela hona maut ke barabar daravna aur khatarnaak hai.
  5. Ya is ka matlab hai ke ghair-mahram aurat ke saath akelay rehna maut jaisa haraam aur khatarnaak hai.

Islam ne gharon ki hifazat aur fitno ki rokaawat ke liye yeh zaruri hadees aur usool diya hai taake musalman gharane mehfooz aur ba-izzat rahen.

Jo log kehte hain ke: "Main apni biwi aur bhai ya cousin par bharosa karta hoon", unhein samajhna chahiye ke bharosa apni jagah, magar Nabi Kareem ﷺ ki hadees "Jab ek mard aur ek ghair-mahram aurat akelay hote hain, to teesra unke saath shaytan hota hai" (Tirmidhi, 1171) sab logon ke liye aam hukm hai, chahe woh mutaqi (parhaizgar) ho ya fasiq (gunahgaar).

Musalman bhaiyo aur behno, is fitne se bachiye aur Allah ke hukm par amal kijiye. Allah Ta’ala hamesha hifazat farmaye.

Khandani Mel-jol Mein Mardon Aur Aurton Ka milna

Insan fitratan milansaar aur masharti makhlooq hai, aur doston aur rishtedaron ke saath mulaqatein uski zarurat hain. Magar jab khandani mulaqatein hoti hain, to humein fitno ka raasta band karna chahiye aur mardon aur aurton ka milna-julna (mixing) rokna chahiye.

Mixing ke haraam hone ki ek daleel yeh aayah hai:
“Aur jab tum Nabi ki biwiyon se koi cheez maango to parde ke peeche se maango; yeh tumhare dilon aur unke dilon ke liye zyada paakiza hai.” (Al-Ahzaab 33:53)

Agar hum khandani mulaqaton ke dauran mardon aur aurton ke mix hone ke nateejon par gaur karein, to bohot si buraiyan samne aati hain, jaise:

  1. Hijab Ki Pabandi Na Karna:
    Aise mixed gatherings mein zyada tar auratein hijab ka khayal nahi rakhti ya ghair-sahi hijab pehanti hain. Is wajah se woh apna husn un logon ke samne zahir karti hain jinke saamne unka ye karna haraam hai. Allah Ta’ala farmata hai:
    “Aur momin auraton se keh do… ke woh apni zeenat na dikhayein…” (Al-Noor 24:31)
    Kabhi aisa hota hai ke aurat ghair-mahram logon ke liye zyada zeenat se sajti hai, jabke apne shohar ke liye nahi.

  2. Fitna Aur Nafsanji:
    Mixed gatherings mein mardon ka auraton ko dekhna mazhabi aur akhlaqi tabahi ka sabab banta hai aur haraam tareeqon se nafsani khwahishat ko barhawa deta hai.

  3. Shohar Aur Biwi Mein Jhagda:
    Aise gatherings mein agar shohar kisi aur ki biwi se hans kar baat kare ya biwi kisi ghair-mard se mazak kare, to ghar aate hi ilzaam tarashi shuru hoti hai:

  1. Shadi Se Mutma’een Na Rehna:
    Mard apni biwi ka muqabla kisi aur ki biwi se karta hai, aur aurat apne shohar ka muqabla kisi aur ke shohar se karti hai.

  1. Dikhawa Aur Jhoot:
    Log apni asliyat chhupa kar apne aap ko barha charha kar dikhate hain. Mard dusre mardon ke samne apni biwi par hukoomat karne ka natak karta hai, jabke ghar mein woh khud bechara ban jata hai. Aur aurat doosron ke samne udhaar ke zevar pehan kar apna shaukat dikhati hai. Nabi Kareem ﷺ ne farmaya:
    “Jo shaks kisi cheez ka dikhawa kare jo uski nahi, woh jhoot ke libaas mein lapeta hua hai.” (Bukhari, Fath al-Baari, 9/317)

  2. Waqt Aur Gunahon Ka Zaya:
    Late-night gatherings sirf waqt zaya karti hain, gunahon ka sabab banti hain aur chhote bachon ko ghar par akela chhod diya jata hai jo unki hifazat ke liye khatarnaak hai.

  3. Bade Gunahon Mein Mulawees Hona:
    Aise late-night gatherings kabhi kabhi sharab, jua aur doosre bade gunahon tak barh jati hain, khaaskar un logon mein jo apne aap ko “upper class” kehte hain. Aise mahafil mein kuffar ki nakal aur unke fashions ka paalna bhi aam hai. Nabi Kareem ﷺ ne farmaya:
    “Jo kisi qaum ki nakal karega, woh unhi mein shamil hoga.” (Musnad Ahmad, 2/50; Saheeh al-Jaami’, 2828, 6025)

Musalman bhaiyo aur behno, yeh aamal na sirf deen ke khilaaf hain balki aapke gharane ki tabahi ka sabab ban sakte hain. Allah ke ahkaam ka paaband rahiye aur ghair-shari’ practices se door rahiye. Allah Ta’ala hamesha hifazat farmaye.

Driver aur naukarani rakhne ke nuqsanat

Ghar mein mard driver aur aurat naukarani rakhne ke nuqsanat se hoshiyar raho.
Buraai ko door karne ki koshish karna ek deeni farz hai, aur buraai aur fitna ke darwaze band karna sharee’at ki afzal tareen tarjeehat mein se hai. Naukar aur driver ke zariye bohot saari fitna aur gunaah hum tak pohonche hain, magar bohot se log is baat par dhyan nahi dete, aur agar dhyan dete bhi hain to isse sanjeeda nahi lete.

Insaan aksar ek hi jagah se bar bar dukh utha leta hai magar dard mehsoos nahi karta, ya apne ghar ke paas hone wale kisi haadse ke baare mein sunta hai magar usse sabaq nahi leta. Ye sab kamzoor imaan aur is ehsas ki kami ka natija hai ke Allah har waqt kareeb hai. Ye kami aaj ke dour mein bohot se logon ke dilon ko mutasir karti hai.

Hum naukar aur driver rakhne ke nuqsanat ka ek mukhtasir bayan karenge taake jo dekhne wali aankhein rakhta hai aur jo apne ghar ke liye sahi raasta ikhtiyar karna chahta hai, uske liye ye ek yaad-dihani ban jaye.

Ghar mein aurat naukarani ka hona mardon, khaaskar jawan larkon ke liye fitna aur azmaish ka sabab banta hai, unki zeenat aur khalwat (akelay honay) ki surat mein. Humein aise kitne hi waqiaat sunne ko milte hain ke koi jawan larka raah-e-rast se bhatka aur uska sabab ye tha ke naukarani uske saamne aayi ya woh jawan larka us baat ka faida utha kar, ke ghar mein koi aur nahi tha, naukarani ke paas chala gaya.

Kuch jawan apne gharwalon se saaf taur par apni galti ka izhaar karte hain, magar gharwale koi jawab nahi dete. Kuch aur mamlaat mein gharwale khud kuch dekh lete hain, magar unka radd-e-amal ghairat aur sharm-o-haya se bilkul khaali hota hai.
“Yusuf, is baat se door raho! (Aur tum, aurat) apne gunaah ki maafi maango. Beshak tum gunaahgaaron mein se thi.” [Surah Yusuf 12:29 – ma’ni ka tarjuma].

Isi tarah, aag aur eendhan ek saath reh rahe hain aur halaat mein koi tabdeeli nahi ki ja rahi. Ye bhi dekha gaya hai ke naukaraniyon ne ghar ki betiyon ko galat rawaiyye sikhaye hain.

Natija: Aakhirat ke din afsos aur nadamat ke siwa kuch haath nahi aayega.

Ulama ki rai: In mamlaat aur dusron ki wajah se, kuch ulema samajhte hain ke aaj kal jis tarah auratein naukaraniyon ko ghar mein laati hain, ye jaiz nahin hai. Aur fitnah ko rokna aur buraai ke darwaze band karna farz hai. (Is masle par Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen ki fatwa dekhein)

  1. Khuloos aur imandari ke misaal: Yeh baat hum nahi jhutlate ke kuch naukar aur driver mukhlis Musalman hote hain, aur mumkin hai ke woh ghar ke afraad se bhi zyada mukhlis hon. Humne aise naukaraniyon ke baare mein suna hai jo kitchen mein ek Mus-haf rakhti hain, taake kaam mukammal karne ke baad Qur’aan ki tilawat kar sakein, aur aise drivers ke baare mein suna hai jo apne malik se pehle Fajr ki namaz masjid mein ada karte hain.

  2. Haqeeqi zarurat ka inkaar nahi: Hum un haqeeqi zaruraton ka inkaar nahi karte jo kabhi kabhi naukar aur drivers ki madad lena farz karti hain. Misal ke taur par:

    • Bada ghar aur kaam ka ziada bojh.
    • Ghar mein chhote bachon ki zyada tadaad.
    • Kisi shakhs ka mustaqil bemar ya ma’azoor hona.
    • Woh kaam jo biwi akeli nahi kar sakti.

    Lekin Musalmanon ko yeh zarur sochna chahiye ke naukaraniyon aur drivers ko ghar mein rakhnay ke doran Islami sharaait aur deeni ehtiyaat ka kitna khayaal rakha jata hai?

  3. Fitna aur ehtiyaat ke asool:

    • Kitne log yeh guarantee karte hain ke driver unke ghar ki aurat ke sath tanha nahi hoga?
    • Ya mard naukarani ke sath tanha nahi hoga?
    • Naukaraniyon ko hijab ki pabandi ki taleem deni chahiye, aur mard ko unki zeenat ki taraf dekhnay se bachna chahiye.
    • Agar malik ghar aayen aur naukarani ke siwa ghar mein koi na ho, to use ghar mein dakhil nahi hona chahiye.
    • Sirf woh naukar aur naukarani rakhni chahiye jo mukhlis Musalman hon… aur aise aur bhi asoolon par amal zaroori hai.

Is liye jo bhi apne ghar mein aise naukar ya driver rakhta hai, usay yeh yaqeen karna chahiye ke yeh shakhs kisi jaayaz zarurat ke liye hai aur Islami sharaait ka achi tarah khayaal rakha ja raha hai. Hazrat Yoosuf (alayhis salaam) ki kahani is silsile mein humare liye ek dars hai. Yeh kahani is baat ko wazeh karti hai ke ghar mein naukar aur driver hone se fitnah paida ho sakta hai, aur yeh bhi ke buraayi usi ghar ke logon se shuru ho sakti hai, chahe naukarani ya driver Allah se darne wale hi kyun na hon. Allah ta'ala ne farmaya (tafsir ka ma’na):

“Aur us aurat ne jiske ghar mein wo tha, usay apne paas bulane ki koshish ki (buray kaam mein), usne darwazay bandh kar liye aur kaha: ‘Aao, tum!’ Usne kaha, ‘Main Allah ki panah mein aata hoon (ya Allah ki haya se)!’…” [Yoosuf 12:23]

Hum un logon ko jo apne gharo mein naukaraniyon ke baghair mushkilat ka shikaar hain, yeh mashwarah dete hain ke woh ye kaam kar sakte hain:

  1. Fitnah ke zarayeh ka khauf: Jo bhi apne ghar mein fitnah ke zarayeh rakhta ho, chahe woh naukaraniyon ki wajah se ho ya kisi aur cheez se, usay Allah se darna chahiye aur unhein apne ghar se nikaal dena chahiye.

  2. Islami sharaait ka khauf: Jo bhi apne ghar mein naukar rakhne ke liye Islami sharaait laane ka soch raha ho, usay Allah se darna chahiye aur samajhna chahiye ke waqt ke sath in sharaait mein halki laax ho sakti hai.

  3. Kaafir naukar ke liye dawaat: Jo bhi apne ghar mein kisi kaafir naukar ko rakhta ho, khaas taur pe Arabian Peninsula mein, usay Islam ko behtareen tareeqay se un tak pohanchana chahiye. Agar woh Islam qabool karte hain, to behtareen hai, agar nahi, to us naukar ko uske asal mulk wapis bhej dena chahiye.

Akhir kar, hum is guftagu ko ek kahani ke sath khatam karenge jo gharo mein naukaraniyon aur drivers ke hone ke khatarat, Qur’aan aur Sunnah ki taraf rujoo karne, aur har us faislay ko naqabool karne ke bare mein hai jo sharee'ah ke mutabiq na ho. Is kahani se humein ilm aur taqwa ka izafa hota hai, aur yeh bhi zindagi mein Allah ke hukoomat aur dosray logon ke saath mashwara karne ki ahmiyat ko samajhne mein madad milti hai.

Abu Hurayrah aur Zayd ibn Khaalid (Allah un se razi ho) ne kaha: "Hum Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) ke sath baithay huay thay ke ek aadmi ne khada ho kar kaha, ‘Main Allah ki kasam khata hoon, aap humare darmiyan Allah ki Kitaab ke mutabiq faisla dein.’ Uska doosra, jo zyada ilm wala tha, khada ho gaya aur kaha, ‘Allah ki Kitaab ke mutabiq humare darmiyan faisla karein aur mujhe baat karne ki ijaazat dein.’ Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) ne kaha, ‘Baat karo.’ Us ne kaha, ‘Mera yeh beta is aadmi ke paas naukri karta tha aur is ne iski biwi ke saath zina kiya. Maine use ek so bheed aur ek naukarani dekar iski izzat ke nuqsan ka ta’awun diya, phir maine ilm wale logon se mashwara kiya aur unhone kaha ke mere bete ko sau maar lagni chahiye aur ek saal ke liye exiled (nikala) kar diya jaye, aur is aurat ko patthar maar kar saza di jaye [kyunki woh shaadi shuda thi aur usne apni raza se ye kaam kiya].’

Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) ne kaha, ‘Woh Allah jiske haath mein meri jaan hai, main tumhare darmiyan Allah ki Kitaab ke mutabiq faisla karoonga. Apni sau bheed aur naukarani wapis le lo. Tumhara beta sau maar khayega aur ek saal ke liye exiled kiya jayega. O Unays, tum is aadmi ki biwi ke paas kal jao aur agar woh izhaar kare to use patthar maro.’ [Unays] ne agle din usse baat ki aur usne apni galti qubool ki, is liye usay patthar maar diye gaye." (Reported by al-Bukhari, al-Fath, 12/136).

Note: Un cheezon mein se jo har us Muslim ko nuqsan pohanchati hain jo Islam ke rulings ki fikr karta hai, wo hai jo kuch gharo mein hota hai, jahan safai karne walay aur maintenance workers auraton ke paas unke nightdresses aur house-dresses mein jaate hain. Kya in auraton ko yeh nahi lagta ke yeh log mard hain, aur Allah ne unko unke samne hijaab ka hukum diya hai?

Ek aur buray kaam jo kuch gharo mein hota hai, wo hai jab non-mahram mard, naujawaan larkiyon ko taleem dete hain, ya kuch auratein naujawaan larkon ko bina hijaab ke taleem deti hain.

 

Gharon se aurton ki tarah chalne walay mardon ko nikaalna.

Al-Bukhari (Allah un par rehmat kare) ne apni kitaab "Libaas" ke baab mein un mardon ko gharon se nikaalne ka zikr kiya jo aurton ki tarah rawaiya ikhtiyar karte hain. Ibn 'Abbas (radhi Allah anhu) ne kaha: "Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) ne un mardon ko lanaa aur un aurton ko laanat di jo ek doosre ke rang mein rang jaate hain aur kaha, 'Unhein apne gharon se nikaal do.' Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) ne aise fulaan mard ko nikaal diya. Aur Umar (radhi Allah anhu) ne fulaan aurat ko nikaal diya." (Bukhari, Kitaab al-Libaas, baab 62, al-Fath, 10/333).

Phir al-Bukhari ne Umm Salamah (radhi Allah anha) se riwayat ki jo uss waqt unke ghar mein thi jab ek aurat ki tarah chalne wala mard, jo Umm Salamah ke bhai Abdullah ibn Abi Umayyah ko keh raha tha: "Agar Allah ki marzi se tum kal Ta'if par fatah paa lo, toh main tumhein Ghaylaan ki beti dikhata hoon; uske aage chaar moote phal hain aur pichhe aath." Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) ne kaha, "Yeh shakhs tumhare ghar mein na aaye." (Bukhari, Baab 113, al-Fath, 9/333).

"Mukhannath" (effeminate man) ki tareef: Mukhannath woh mard hota hai jo fiziki tor par ya apne harkaton aur zubaan ki nakal karke aurton ki tarah dikhayi deta ho. Agar yeh fiziki hai, yaani agar uska sharir is tarah ka bana hai, toh us par koi ilzaam nahi, lekin usse apni is shakal ko badalne ki koshish karni chahiye. Agar woh mard kisi niyat ke sath aurton ki nakal kar raha ho, toh use mukhannath kaha jaata hai chahe woh buray kaamon ka ارتکاب kare (homosexual ho) ya na kare.

Jo effeminate (aurton ki tarah chalne wala) mard yahan zikr kiya gaya hai, jo ek naukar ki tarah tha, woh Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) ke gharon mein is liye aata tha kyun ke use "ek budha aur kamzor mard" samjha jata tha (al-Noor 24:31 ke hawalay se). Jab Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) ko yeh ehsaas hua ke yeh shakhs auraton ko bohot achay tareeqay se pehchanta hai aur woh ek aurat ko is tarah se bayan kar raha hai ke uske aage chaar moote phal hain aur pichhe aath (har taraf chaar), toh unhone hukm diya ke isay ghar ke andar nahi aane diya jaye. Yeh is liye tha ke yeh shakhs ghar ke andar aake auraton ko dekh kar unka bayan kisi ajnabi ko kar sakta tha, ya phir woh ghar ke andar ke logon par bura asar daal sakta tha, jaise ke auraton ko mardon ki nakal karne ki taraf raghbat dilana, ya mardon ko aurton ki tarah chalne ya halka awaz mein baat karne ki taraf mutasir karna, ya usse bhi zyada buray fitnay ka sabab banna.

Aaj kal jo halat hain, jab hum dekhte hain ke kayi aise naukar, jo aurton ki tarah chal rahe hain, khaas taur par kafir log jo Musalmanon ke gharo mein rehte hain, aur hum jaante hain ke unka Musalman larkon aur larkiyon par bura asar ho raha hai. Aaj kal ek group bhi hai jo "third sex" ke naam se jaana jaata hai, jo make-up karte hain aur aurton ke kapde pehente hain. Yeh kisay bhi qoumi liye ek bohot bara musibat hai, jo ummah-e-jihad hone ka daawa karti hai!

Agar aap jaana chahte hain ke Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) ne "third sex" ke khilaf kaise rawaiya apnaya, aur kaise unke sahaaba ne apne ghairat aur izzat ke hisaas ke saath is kaam ka muqabla kiya, toh is hadeeth par ghour karein:

Abu Hurayrah (radhi Allah anhu) se riwayat hai ke ek effeminate mard, jisne apne haath henna se rangaye thay (jaise auratain karti hain), Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) ke paas laya gaya, aur kaha gaya, "Ya Rasool Allah! Yeh mard aurton ki nakal kar raha hai." Toh Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) ne use al-Baqee' bhej diya (taazaab ke liye, aur doosron ki hifazat ke liye). Poocha gaya, "Aap ise qatal kyun nahi karte?" Unhone kaha, "Mujhe un logon ko qatal karne se roka gaya hai jo namaz parhte hain." (Abu Dawood, 4928, aur doosray riwayat karne walay. Saheeh al-Jaami’, 2502).

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