Achhe Pati ki Khoobiyan
Har achha pati chahta hai ke uski patni uske saath khush rahe. Is raaste par Nabi ﷺ se behtar rehnuma koi nahi, kyunke aap ne khud apne ghar mein yeh kar ke dikhaya. Aap ne farmaya: "Tum mein sabse achha woh hai jo apne ghar walon ke liye sabse achha ho, aur main tum sab mein apne ghar walon ke liye sabse achha hoon." Yani ek mard ki achhai ki pehchan uske ghar se hoti hai. Aaiye dekhte hain ke Nabi ﷺ apne ghar mein kaise the.
Ghar mein Saath Dena
Kisi ne Hazrat Aisha se poocha ke Nabi ﷺ ghar mein kya karte the. Unhon ne bataya: "Aap ghar walon ke kaam mein lage rehte the, aur jab namaz ka waqt aata to namaz ke liye chale jaate the." Allah ke Rasool, ummat ke rehnuma, aur phir bhi ghar ke kaam mein haath batate the. Jab koi pati thakan ke baad bhi patni ka kaam halka kar deta hai, to woh Nabi ﷺ ki ek sunnat par amal kar raha hota hai, aur patni ke dil mein uski jagah aur badh jati hai.
Ghar ka saath sirf kaam tak nahi tha. Aap apni patni ke saath hanste khelte bhi the. Hazrat Aisha ek safar ka waqia batati hain: "Maine aap ﷺ se daud lagayi aur main aage nikal gayi. Phir jab mera wazan badh gaya aur maine daud lagayi to aap aage nikal gaye, aur farmaya: Yeh us jeet ka badla hai." Socha jaye to yeh kitni chhoti si baat hai, lekin Hazrat Aisha ne ise yaad rakha aur logon ko bataya. Patni ke saath bitaya hua aisa halka phulka waqt bhi rishte ko mazboot karta hai.
Dil ka Haal Samajhna
Isi saath se ek doosre ko samajhna bhi aata hai. Nabi ﷺ ne ek baar Hazrat Aisha se farmaya: "Mujhe pata chal jata hai ke kab tum mujhse khush ho aur kab naraz." Unhon ne poocha kaise? Aap ne farmaya ke jab tum khush hoti ho to kehti ho "Muhammad ke Rabb ki qasam", aur jab naraz hoti ho to kehti ho "Ibrahim ke Rabb ki qasam". Unhon ne kaha: "Ji haan, Allah ki qasam, main sirf aapka naam chhodti hoon." Aap ﷺ patni ke itne chhote se ishare ko bhi pehchan lete the. Achha pati bhi aise hi patni ki baat ke saath uska lehja aur uski khamoshi bhi samajhne ki koshish karta hai.
Yeh khayal un dinon mein aur bhi badh jata tha jab patni ko apnepan ki zyada zaroorat hoti hai. Hazrat Aisha batati hain: "Main mahwari ki halat mein peeti, phir bartan Nabi ﷺ ko deti, to aap usi jagah munh rakh kar peete jahan se maine piya tha." In dinon mein bhi patni ke saath wahi nazdeeki aur wahi izzat, yeh Nabi ﷺ ka tareeqa tha.
Ghar mein kabhi kabhi aisi baat bhi ho jati hai jo achhi na lage. Dekhiye, Nabi ﷺ ne aise mauke par kya kiya. Ek baar aap apni ek patni ke ghar the ke doosri patni ne khana bheja. Jis patni ka ghar tha, usne khana laane wale ke haath par maara aur bartan gir kar toot gaya. Aap ne bartan ke tukde jama kiye, khana samet kar farmaya: "Tumhari maa ko jalan ho gayi." Phir usi ghar se sahi bartan mangwa kar us patni ko bhijwa diya jiska bartan toota tha. Is riwayat mein na daant ka zikr hai, na zillat ka. Nuksan ka insaf bhi ho gaya aur ghar ka sukoon bhi bacha raha.
Isi narmi ka raaz aap ﷺ ne ek chhoti si baat mein bata diya: "Koi momin mard kisi momin aurat se nafrat na kare. Agar uski ek aadat use napasand hai, to doosri aadat pasand aayegi." Jab nazar khoobiyon par rehti hai to wahi patni har din ek nemat lagti hai. Allah Ta'ala har pati ko apne ghar walon ke liye sabse achha banne ki taufeeq de. Aameen.
References: Jami at-Tirmidhi 3895; Sahih al-Bukhari 676, 5228, 5225; Sunan Abi Dawud 2578; Sahih Muslim 300, 1468b.