Miyan Biwi ke Haq: Dono Taraf ki Zimmedari
Har jode ke dil mein yeh khwahish hoti hai ke unka rishta din ba din aur khoobsurat hota jaye. Achhi baat yeh hai ke Allah Ta'ala ne khud is rishte ka zikr Qur'an mein kiya hai, aur bataya hai ke pati aur patni dono ka ek doosre par haq hai: "Aur auraton ke bhi bhale tareeqe se waise hi haq hain jaise un par zimmedariyan hain."1
Haq ka lafz sun kar kabhi lagta hai ke yeh koi sakht si baat hogi. Lekin ghar mein iska matlab bas itna hai ke hum ek doosre ki zaroorat aur khushi ko apni zimmedari samajh len. Pati patni ka khayal rakhe, patni pati ka, aur dono yeh kaam Allah ko khush karne ke liye karen.
Ek Amanat
Is rishte ki qadr ka andaza is se hota hai ke Nabi ﷺ ne apne aakhri Hajj ke khutbe mein bhi iska zikr kiya. Aap ne farmaya: "Auraton ke baare mein Allah se daro, kyunke tumne unhein Allah ki amaan mein liya hai."2 Yani nikah ke baad patni pati ke paas Allah ki amanat hoti hai. Jab yeh baat pati ke dil mein baith jati hai, to uski baaton aur uske bartaav mein khud hi narmi aa jati hai.
Isi khutbe ki ek riwayat mein aap ﷺ ne dono ka zikr ek saath kiya: "Suno! Tumhare apni patniyon par haq hain, aur tumhari patniyon ke tum par haq hain."3 Phir aap ne dono ke haq ki misaal bhi di. Patni ghar mein kisi aise shakhs ko na aane de jo pati ko pasand na ho, aur pati patni ke khane aur kapde ka achhe se khayal rakhe.3 Yeh ghar ki roz ki baatein hain, aur inhi se ek doosre par bharosa banta hai.
Khane ki baat aayi hai to ek pyari hadith bhi sun lijiye. Nabi ﷺ ne farmaya: "Tum Allah ki raza ke liye jo kuch kharch karo, us par tumhein sawab milega, yahan tak ke us niwale par bhi jo tum apni patni ke munh mein dalte ho."4 Ek niwala kitni chhoti si cheez hai, phir bhi Allah ke yahan uska sawab hai. To jo pati apni patni ki zaroorat poori karta hai, woh sirf ek zimmedari ada nahi kar raha, balke sawab bhi kama raha hai.
Isi tarah patni bhi ghar mein ek badi zimmedari sambhalti hai. Nabi ﷺ ne farmaya: "Mard apne ghar walon ka nigehban hai aur us se unke baare mein sawal hoga, aur aurat apne pati ke ghar aur uske bachon ki nigehban hai aur us se unke baare mein sawal hoga."5 Is hadith mein dono ke liye ek hi lafz aaya hai. Ghar dono ki mehnat se banta hai, aur dono ki mehnat Allah ke saamne hai.
Is zimmedari ka sabse khoobsurat hissa aapas ka bartaav hai. Qur'an kehta hai: "Aur unke saath bhale tareeqe se raho."6 Is mein achhi baat karna, narmi se pesh aana, aur apna rang roop bhi aisa rakhna shamil hai jo patni ko achha lage, jaise mard apne liye yahi chahta hai.7 Ek doosre ke liye achha dikhna bhi muhabbat ka ek pyara izhaar hai.
Saath Saath Allah ki Taraf
Jab ghar mein aisi narmi aa jati hai, to pati patni deen mein bhi ek doosre ka haath thamne lagte hain. Nabi ﷺ ne aise jode ke liye dua farmayi: "Allah us mard par rahm kare jo raat ko uth kar namaz padhe aur apni patni ko jagaye, aur agar woh na uthe to uske chehre par paani chhidke. Allah us aurat par rahm kare jo raat ko uth kar namaz padhe aur apne pati ko jagaye, aur agar woh na uthe to uske chehre par paani chhidke."8 Dekhiye, dua dono ke liye ek jaisi hai. Jo pehle jaag jaye, woh doosre ko bhi saath le le.
Aur ibadat ka shauq ghar se door nahi le jata. Ek sahabi din bhar roze rakhte aur raat bhar namaz padhte the. Nabi ﷺ ne unhein samjhaya: "Tumhare jism ka tum par haq hai, tumhari aankhon ka tum par haq hai, aur tumhari patni ka tum par haq hai."9 Yani patni ke saath waqt bitana bhi deen ka hi hissa hai.
Jab pati aur patni ek doosre ka khayal Allah ke liye rakhne lagte hain, to chhote chhote kaam bhi ibadat ban jate hain. Allah Ta'ala har pati aur patni ko ek doosre ke liye sukoon aur khushi ka zariya banaye. Aameen.
References: 1 Qur'an 2:228, 4:19;2 Sahih Muslim 1218a;, 3 Jami at-Tirmidhi 1163;, 4 Sahih al-Bukhari 56, 5 Sahih al-Bukhari 2554, 5199;6 SunanQur'an Abi4:19, Dawud 1308;7 Tafsir Ibn Kathir 4:19, 8 Sunan Abi Dawud 1308, 9 Sahih al-Bukhari 5199.