Patni ki Zimmedariyan
Nikah ke baad ek aurat ek naye ghar ki roshni ban kar aati hai. Is ghar ko sambhalna uske liye bahut izzat ki baat hai. Nabi ﷺ ne farmaya: "Aurat apne pati ke ghar aur uske bachon ki nigehban hai." Nigehban us shakhs ko kehte hain jis par kisi keemti cheez ke maamle mein bharosa kiya jaye. Yani ghar aur bachon ki dekhbhal koi chhota kaam nahi, balke ek amanat hai jo Allah ne patni ke haathon mein di hai.
Bachon par Pyar, Ghar par Dhyan
Is amanat ke do khoobsurat pehlu Nabi ﷺ ne ek hadith mein bataye hain. Aap ne apne zamane ki auraton ki tareef karte hue farmaya: "Quraysh ki nek auratein apne chhote bachon par sabse zyada meherban hoti hain, aur apne pati ke maal ka sabse achha khayal rakhti hain." Pehli khoobi hai bachon ke saath pyar aur narmi. Bachpan mein maa ka pyar hi bachon ki sabse badi taleem hota hai. Doosri khoobi hai ghar ke maal ka khayal, yani jo kuch ghar mein aaye use samajhdari se kharch kiya jaye. Pati bahar mehnat karta hai aur patni ghar ko sambhalti hai, aur dono ki koshish se hi ghar aage badhta hai.
Ghar ke maal ka khayal rakhne ka matlab yeh nahi ke dil tang ho jaye. Nabi ﷺ ne farmaya: "Jab aurat apne pati ke ghar se khushi se kuch de, aur ghar ka nuksan na kare, to use bhi uske pati jaisa sawab milta hai. Use uski achhi niyat ka sawab milta hai." Yeh baat un chhoti cheezon ki hai jin ke baare mein patni jaanti hai ke pati ko bura nahi lagega, jaise kisi zarooratmand ko khana de dena. Dekhiye, pati kamata hai, patni dil se deti hai, aur Allah dono ko sawab deta hai.
Bharose ka Rishta
Ghar ki nigehbani mein yeh bhi aata hai ke patni pati ki pasand ka khayal rakhe. Nabi ﷺ ne farmaya ke aurat "uske ghar mein kisi ko uski ijazat ke baghair na aane de." Is ka matlab yeh nahi ke har mehman ke liye alag se poochha jaye. Agar patni ko maloom hai ke pati ko kisi ke aane se koi aitraaz nahi, to is mein koi harj nahi. Baat sirf itni hai ke ghar dono ka hai, aur ek doosre ki pasand ke saath chalne se bharosa badhta hai.
Isi tarah Nabi ﷺ ne ek aur baat farmayi: "Aurat apne pati ki maujoodgi mein Ramzan ke ilawa koi roza uski ijazat ke baghair na rakhe." Yeh hukm Ramzan ya farz roze ka nahi, balke nafli roze ka hai, aur us waqt ka hai jab pati ghar par ho. Agar pati safar par ho to patni nafli roza rakh sakti hai. Is ki hikmat yeh hai ke miyan biwi ek doosre ke saath ka khayal rakhen. Aur yeh baat sirf patni ke liye nahi. Ek sahabi din bhar roze rakhte the, to Nabi ﷺ ne unhein bhi samjhaya ke tumhari patni ka bhi tum par haq hai. Yani ibadat ka shauq apni jagah, aur ek doosre ka haq apni jagah.
Jab patni yeh sab Allah ke liye karti hai, to uske ghar ke chhote chhote kaam bhi Allah ke yahan bade ban jate hain. Allah Ta'ala har patni ko apne ghar ki yeh amanat khushi se sambhalne ki taufeeq de aur uski mehnat ko qubool farmaye. Aameen.
References: Sahih al-Bukhari 5200, 5365, 5195, 5192, 5199; Jami at-Tirmidhi 672; Sunan Abi Dawud 2458; Fath al-Bari 9/296, 9/297.