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Khandani Mel-jol Mein Mardon Aur Aurton Ka milna

Insan fitratan milansaar aur masharti makhlooq hai, aur doston aur rishtedaron ke saath mulaqatein uski zarurat hain. Magar jab khandani mulaqatein hoti hain, to humein fitno ka raasta band karna chahiye aur mardon aur aurton ka milna-julna (mixing) rokna chahiye.

Mixing ke haraam hone ki ek daleel yeh aayah hai:
“Aur jab tum Nabi ki biwiyon se koi cheez maango to parde ke peeche se maango; yeh tumhare dilon aur unke dilon ke liye zyada paakiza hai.” (Al-Ahzaab 33:53)

Agar hum khandani mulaqaton ke dauran mardon aur aurton ke mix hone ke nateejon par gaur karein, to bohot si buraiyan samne aati hain, jaise:

  1. Hijab Ki Pabandi Na Karna:
    Aise mixed gatherings mein zyada tar auratein hijab ka khayal nahi rakhti ya ghair-sahi hijab pehanti hain. Is wajah se woh apna husn un logon ke samne zahir karti hain jinke saamne unka ye karna haraam hai. Allah Ta’ala farmata hai:
    “Aur momin auraton se keh do… ke woh apni zeenat na dikhayein…” (Al-Noor 24:31)
    Kabhi aisa hota hai ke aurat ghair-mahram logon ke liye zyada zeenat se sajti hai, jabke apne shohar ke liye nahi.

  2. Fitna Aur Nafsanji:
    Mixed gatherings mein mardon ka auraton ko dekhna mazhabi aur akhlaqi tabahi ka sabab banta hai aur haraam tareeqon se nafsani khwahishat ko barhawa deta hai.

  3. Shohar Aur Biwi Mein Jhagda:
    Aise gatherings mein agar shohar kisi aur ki biwi se hans kar baat kare ya biwi kisi ghair-mard se mazak kare, to ghar aate hi ilzaam tarashi shuru hoti hai:

  • Shohar: Tum ne falan ki baat par hans kyu diya jab usne koi mazahiya baat bhi nahi ki?
  • Biwi: Aur tum ne falan aurat ko aankh maar kar kyu dekha?
    Yeh behas aapas ki nafrat aur hatta ke talaaq tak le ja sakti hai.
  1. Shadi Se Mutma’een Na Rehna:
    Mard apni biwi ka muqabla kisi aur ki biwi se karta hai, aur aurat apne shohar ka muqabla kisi aur ke shohar se karti hai.
  • Mard sochta hai: "Falan ki biwi kitni taleem yafta hai aur meri biwi anparh hai."
  • Aurat sochti hai: "Falan ka shohar kitna hoshiyaar hai, aur mera shohar bilkul bore hai."
    Yeh jazbat shadi shuda zindagi ko kharaab karte hain ya buray sulook ka sabab bante hain.

  1. Dikhawa Aur Jhoot:
    Log apni asliyat chhupa kar apne aap ko barha charha kar dikhate hain. Mard dusre mardon ke samne apni biwi par hukoomat karne ka natak karta hai, jabke ghar mein woh khud bechara ban jata hai. Aur aurat doosron ke samne udhaar ke zevar pehan kar apna shaukat dikhati hai. Nabi Kareem ﷺ ne farmaya:
    “Jo shaks kisi cheez ka dikhawa kare jo uski nahi, woh jhoot ke libaas mein lapeta hua hai.” (Bukhari, Fath al-Baari, 9/317)

  2. Waqt Aur Gunahon Ka Zaya:
    Late-night gatherings sirf waqt zaya karti hain, gunahon ka sabab banti hain aur chhote bachon ko ghar par akela chhod diya jata hai jo unki hifazat ke liye khatarnaak hai.

  3. Bade Gunahon Mein Mulawees Hona:
    Aise late-night gatherings kabhi kabhi sharab, jua aur doosre bade gunahon tak barh jati hain, khaaskar un logon mein jo apne aap ko “upper class” kehte hain. Aise mahafil mein kuffar ki nakal aur unke fashions ka paalna bhi aam hai. Nabi Kareem ﷺ ne farmaya:
    “Jo kisi qaum ki nakal karega, woh unhi mein shamil hoga.” (Musnad Ahmad, 2/50; Saheeh al-Jaami’, 2828, 6025)

Musalman bhaiyo aur behno, yeh aamal na sirf deen ke khilaaf hain balki aapke gharane ki tabahi ka sabab ban sakte hain. Allah ke ahkaam ka paaband rahiye aur ghair-shari’ practices se door rahiye. Allah Ta’ala hamesha hifazat farmaye.

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