Nek Patni ki Khoobiyan

Har achhi patni chahti hai ke uska ghar sukoon ka ghar ho aur uska pati uske saath khush rahe. Is chahat ki Islam mein bahut qadr hai. Nabi ﷺ ne farmaya: "Yeh duniya faida uthane ki jagah hai, aur duniya ki sabse behtar nemat nek aurat hai."¹ Dekhiye, duniya mein kitni cheezen hain jinke peeche log bhagte hain, lekin Nabi ﷺ ne sabse behtar ek nek aurat ko kaha. Yeh us aurat ka martaba hai jo apne ghar ko apni achhai se roshan rakhti hai.

Jannat ka Aasan Raasta

Is martabe tak pahunchne ke liye koi bahut mushkil kaam nahi chahiye. Nabi ﷺ ne farmaya: "Jab aurat apni paanch waqt ki namaz padhe, Ramzan ke roze rakhe, apni izzat ki hifazat kare aur apne pati ki baat maane, to Jannat ke jis darwaze se chahe andar chali jaye."² Yeh wahi kaam hain jo ek Musalman aurat apni roz ki zindagi mein karti hai. Allah ne inhi par itna bada inaam rakh diya hai. Aur pati ki baat maanna bhalai ke kaamon mein hai, kyunke Nabi ﷺ ne farmaya hai: "Baat sirf bhalai ke kaamon mein maani jati hai."³

Ek baar kisi ne Nabi ﷺ se poocha ke sabse achhi aurat kaun si hai. Aap ne farmaya: "Woh jo pati ke dekhne par use khush kar de, uske kehne par uski baat maan le, aur apni zaat aur apne maal ke baare mein aisa kuch na kare jo use napasand ho."⁴ Yahan pehli baat khushi ki hai. Ek muskurahat, ek pyari baat aur thoda sa sanwarna, yeh chhoti cheezen hain, lekin din bhar ke thake hue pati ke liye yahi ghar ka sukoon ban jati hain. Jab patni is niyat se pati ko khush karti hai ke Allah razi ho, to yeh bhi uske liye bhalai ka kaam ban jata hai.

Do Roshan Misaalen

Nek patni ki sabse khoobsurat misaal Hazrat Khadija hain. Jab Nabi ﷺ par pehli wahi aayi to aap ghabraye hue ghar aaye aur unhein sab kuch bataya, aur farmaya ke mujhe apni jaan ka dar hai. Hazrat Khadija ne kaha: "Hargiz nahi! Allah ki qasam, Allah aapko kabhi ruswa nahi karega. Aap rishtedaron ka khayal rakhte hain, ghareebon aur be-sahara logon ki madad karte hain, mehmanon ki khatir karte hain aur mushkil mein padne walon ka saath dete hain."⁵ Unhon ne us mushkil ghadi mein pati ko unki khoobiyan yaad dilayin aur phir unhein saath lekar ek aise aadmi ke paas gayin jo aasmani kitabon ko jaanta tha. Pati ke mushkil waqt mein uske dil ko sambhalna kisi bhi patni ka bahut bada kaam hai.

Is saath ko Nabi ﷺ ne kabhi nahi bhulaya. Hazrat Aisha batati hain ke aap unke inteqal ke baad bhi aksar unhein yaad karte, aur jab bakri zibah karte to uska gosht Hazrat Khadija ki saheliyon ko bhejte.⁶ Allah Ta'ala ne bhi unhein Jannat mein ek mahal ki khushkhabri di.⁷

Doosri misaal Hazrat Umm Salama ki hai. Hudaibiya ke mauqe par Nabi ﷺ ne sahaba se qurbani karne aur sar mundwane ko kaha. Aap ne teen baar farmaya, lekin koi nahi utha. Aap Hazrat Umm Salama ke paas gaye aur unhein yeh baat batayi. Unhon ne mashwara diya ke aap kisi se kuch na kahen, bas bahar ja kar apni qurbani kar len aur apna sar mundwa len. Aap ne aisa hi kiya, aur jab sahaba ne yeh dekha to sab uth kar qurbani karne lage.⁸ Yani nek patni sirf ghar hi nahi sambhalti, woh apne pati ko achha mashwara bhi deti hai, aur Nabi ﷺ ne khud apni patni ke mashware ko qubool farmaya.

Aakhir mein Qur'an ka yeh wada yaad rakhiye: "Jo bhi nek kaam kare, mard ho ya aurat, aur woh momin ho, to hum use zaroor achhi zindagi denge, aur unhein unke behtareen kaamon ka badla denge."⁹ Ghar mein ki gayi har mehnat aur har pyar bhari baat Allah ke saamne hai. Allah Ta'ala har patni ko apne ghar ke liye sukoon aur apne pati ke liye sachchi saathi banaye. Aameen.

References: ¹ Sahih Muslim 1467, ² Mishkat al-Masabih 3254, ³ Sahih al-Bukhari 7257, ⁴ Sunan an-Nasa'i 3231, ⁵ Sahih al-Bukhari 3, ⁶ Sahih al-Bukhari 3818, ⁷ Sahih Muslim 2435a, ⁸ Sahih al-Bukhari 2731, ⁹ Qur'an 16:97.