Pati ki Zimmedariyan

Nikah ke saath ek mard ki zindagi mein ek nayi zimmedari aati hai. Ab koi hai jo uske bharose apna ghar chhod kar aayi hai. Is zimmedari ki shuruaat ek tohfe se hoti hai. Qur'an kehta hai: "Aur auraton ko unke mahr khushi khushi do."¹ Yani mahr koi bojh ya rasm nahi, balke patni ka haq hai, jo pati dil ki khushi se use deta hai. Yeh naye ghar ki pehli achhi shuruaat hai.

Isi tohfe se aage roz ki zimmedari shuru hoti hai, yani ghar ka kharch. Is mein Allah ne mard par uski taqat se zyada bojh nahi dala. Qur'an kehta hai: "Jiske paas zyada hai woh apne hisaab se kharch kare, aur jiski rozi tang ho woh usi mein se kharch kare jo Allah ne use diya hai. Allah kisi par us se zyada bojh nahi dalta jitna usne use diya hai. Allah mushkil ke baad aasani bhi dega."² Is ayat mein pati ke liye bada sukoon hai. Allah us se wahi chahta hai jo uske bas mein hai, aur tangi ke din hamesha nahi rehte.

Ghar ka Kharch: Ek Ibadat

Kabhi kabhi din bhar ki mehnat ke baad lagta hai ke yeh sab to bas ghar chalane ke liye hai. Lekin Nabi ﷺ ne iski qadr bahut oonchi batayi hai. Aap ne farmaya: "Ek dinar woh hai jo tumne Allah ki raah mein kharch kiya, ek woh jo ghulam ko azad karne mein diya, ek woh jo kisi ghareeb ko sadqe mein diya, aur ek woh jo apne ghar walon par kharch kiya. In sab mein sabse zyada sawab us dinar ka hai jo tumne apne ghar walon par kharch kiya."³

Bas ismein niyat ka khayal rahe. Aap ﷺ ne farmaya: "Jab Musalman sawab ki niyat se apne ghar walon par kharch karta hai, to woh uske liye sadqa hota hai."⁴ To jab patni apni koi zaroorat batati hai, aur pati use poora karta hai, to woh Allah ke yahan apne liye sadqa jama kar raha hota hai. Yeh soch aa jaye to patni ki zaroorat poori karna ek bojh nahi, balke ek mauqa lagne lagta hai.

Ek sahabi ne Nabi ﷺ se poocha ke patni ka pati par kya haq hai. Aap ne farmaya: "Jab tum khao to use bhi khilao, aur jab tum pehno to use bhi pehnao."⁵ Is mein kitni pyari baat chhupi hai. Pati jo apne liye pasand karta hai, wahi patni ke liye bhi pasand kare. Aur isi hadith mein aap ne yeh bhi farmaya ke use bura bhala na kaho.⁵ Yani patni ka haq sirf khane aur kapde ka nahi, achhi baat ka bhi hai. Kabhi kabhi do meethe bol kisi tohfe se zyada keemti hote hain.

Patni ke Dil ka Khayal

Yeh khayal chhoti chhoti baaton mein bhi dikhta hai. Jab sahaba lambe safar se wapas aate, to Nabi ﷺ unhein samjhate ke raat ko seedhe ghar na jayen, balke patni ko sanwarne ka waqt den.^6,7 Yani patni ko bhi yeh mauqa mile ke woh khushi se pati ka istiqbal kar sake. Yeh ek chhoti si baat hai, lekin is se pata chalta hai ke Nabi ﷺ patni ke jazbaat ka kitna khayal rakhte the.

Miyan biwi ka jismani rishta bhi isi muhabbat ka hissa hai, aur Islam ne ise bhi sawab ka kaam banaya hai. Nabi ﷺ ne farmaya ke is rishte mein bhi sadqa hai. Sahaba ne poocha ke kya apni khwahish poori karne par bhi sawab milega? Aap ne farmaya: "Batao, agar woh ise haram jagah poora karta to kya use gunah na hota? Isi tarah jab woh ise halal jagah poora karta hai, to use sawab milta hai."⁸ Jab yeh rishta Allah ki pasand ka hai, to is mein patni ki khushi ka khayal rakhna bhi usi achhai ka hissa hai.

Ghar ko Deen se Jodna

In sab ke saath ek aur khoobsurat zimmedari hai. Qur'an mein Nabi ﷺ se kaha gaya: "Aur apne ghar walon ko namaz ka hukm do aur khud bhi is par jame raho."⁹ Yahan pehle ghar walon ka zikr hai aur phir yeh ke khud bhi jame raho. Ghar mein deen sabse achhe tareeqe se tab aata hai jab pati khud namaz ka pabandi se khayal rakhe aur muhabbat se ghar walon ko bhi saath le.

Jab pati yeh sab Allah ke liye karta hai, to uski thakan bhi sawab ban jati hai aur uska ghar bhi sukoon ki jagah. Allah Ta'ala har pati ko yeh zimmedari khushi se nibhane ki taufeeq de. Aameen.

References: ¹ Qur'an 4:4, ² Qur'an 65:7, ³ Sahih Muslim 995, ⁴ Sahih al-Bukhari 5351, ⁵ Sunan Abi Dawud 2142, ⁶ Sahih al-Bukhari 5244, ⁷ Sahih al-Bukhari 5246, ⁸ Sahih Muslim 1006, ⁹ Qur'an 20:132.